After six years of an intense working schedule, Lois needed a change. She was appointed Kidney Hemodialysis Consultant. She standardized and shared new hemodialysis techniques and procedures while speaking about Kidney Dialysis at events and hospitals. Lois co-founded the American Association of Nephrology Nurses and Technicians. She married in 1972 and became the director of the Kidney Hemodialysis Unit at the Portsmouth Naval Hospital.
Lois wanted a family, but she had many disappointments. She lost three pregnancies. As Lois says, “God finally gave me three beautiful girls.” Her life now was dedicated to raising her three active girls, especially after her divorce. Her joys were often compromised by 30 years of severe migraine headaches that required medication. Lois. nevertheless, was able to find the stamina to raise her girls with their many extracurricular activities, teaching them snow skiing, etc. Soon as her girls entered college, she collapsed into the physical and emotional abuse traumas of her childhood. Despite her many accomplishments, her abusive childhood traumas began to outweigh her vivacious lifestyle. She suffered from broken jaws, scoliosis, mitral valve prolapse, brain traumas, etc. She was told at the age of 5o that she could only live a few more years.
Lois always knew that there were many possibilities, but she exhausted what traditional medical and psychological therapies offered. With great sadness, she left her medical life and turned to holistic health. Lois moved to Sedona in 1999. There she found the resources to heal and discover her new profession. Lois, through her own healing, discovered that her emotional and physical health intricately weave themselves to produce health or disease. She could not remember her childhood, but soon, she was shocked to learn that her abusive childhood left many scars. Since brain traumas cause increased sensitivity to sunlight, she understood why she was unable to be in the daylight.
Her health improved with holistic remedies and emotional counseling to lessen her depression. She no longer thought suicide was her only option but remained despondent. Her poor health still left her with a short life span.
Lois innately knew God had plans for her, and she would find a way to vibrant health. God answered. She had several spiritual experiences that gave her energy and wisdom to find ways to heal.
Lois soon learned from communicating with her emotions that shame guilt distorts her biological systems and created emotional and physical illnesses. Applying the release of shame guilt from her life, she no longer had lingering depression. Her vitality soared. People noticed. They, too, wanted to do what she was doing. And they did. In fact, Lois was so busy she had to write a book to help others who came to her.
She now recognized that shame guilt were the main offenders of health and wellbeing. Even though Lois’ fresh, unique perspective on guilt and shame opens the doors to wellbeing and success, the public resisted. They showed skepticism, indifference, even contempt when she stated that shame guilt saturates our culture and is everyone’s problem. Nonetheless, Lois still maintained that we can stop our struggle with the negativity of low self-esteem, anger, anxiety, and so on when we address shame guilt directly.
Now is an exciting time. Everything is questioned, and new concepts are typical. Now is the time to expose shame guilt. Lois attended film school in Sedona and produced her first film on how we can heal through communicating with our emotions and inner critic. Lois produced the Im Good Film to make shame guilt visible and expose its trickery and dangers.
Today Lois is busy spreading the news that we can address shame guilt directly and heal quickly from the negativity that has kept us from a successful fulfilled life.